Introducing #BeSureSundays

Sundays nights can be rough! It is the most hated day of the weekend. You can't sleep in late because of errands/church and you can't stay up all night because of work/school. So yeah Sundays are mood killers and a reality slap telling you that soon you'll be waking up to Monday Morning Blues (unless it is a long weekend which we love). But what if we changed our attitudes towards Sunday nights and Monday mornings? On Sundays relax & unwind- catch up on your favorite shows, read a book, drink some wine, take a bath surrounded by candles, read Don't Die Afraid, watch football, cook a hearty meal, go horse back riding, exercise....really do anything that brings you happiness. If your Sunday is spent focusing on joy then you will be ready to conquer all the shenanigans you might face that week.

A lot of this anxiety about the weekend being over comes from us not being sure of ourselves. We aren't sure we can deal with the bullcrap we might endure for the week. BUT WE CAN! WE CAN DO IT ALL because we aren't dying afraid, we are a fearless family!

#BeSureSundays

So with that mindset, I came up with the idea of #BeSureSundays. On Sundays, let's focus on seizing the last ounce of the weekend by doing things that makes us smile. Use the hashtag #BeSureSundays to post pictures or tweets about what you are doing that Sunday to be fulfilled, sure of yourself, and ready to conquer the week ahead! I'll also post an inspirational quote, that will be used to get us through the week.

As for Monday mornings, let's remember to be grateful for another day of life.

What do you do on Sundays to prepare for the week?

What is your favorite day of the week?

September 11th Salute

My blog focuses on individuals who aren't dying afraid. They pursue their passions without hesitations. Doing this can be an uncomfortable and scary process because you aren't guaranteed to ANYTHING and don't know 100% where your journey will take you. 911 Bridge

On September 11, 2001 individuals were faced  with what was most likely the scariest situation they have ever experienced. These ordinary civilians just at work or walking around the city did not die afraid. Yes they were probably scared because they didn't know what the outcome would be but they were also thinking about their loved ones and trying to help each other escape and to be so selfless at a time when their lives were in jeopardy is FEARLESS. 

911 Judy

The story above is just one example out of hundreds of fearless acts that occurred that day.

I salute all those lost as a result of September 11th and send prayers of comfort to their families.

The Natural Hair Family Supports Meechy Monroe

People talk about the "natural hair community" as being cult-like, trying to impose their views on others. Yes I agree there are some extremists who want to convert every woman they pass in the street that has a creamy crack addiction into a two strand twist addicted naturalista. But I don't think about those extremists, when I think of natural hair, I think of a family united by hashtags, blogs, Twitter Chats, running to Target for a product discount, YouTube subscriptions, and meet-ups. Sometimes there is an occasional jealousy moment poisoning our minds with the thought, "Ughhh I wish my hair could look like that." However, every family has those moments! The Natural Hair Family Supports Meechy Monroe

Around 6am this morning I realized how deeply rooted the natural hair family is and I'm not talking about the 4c type of roots, I am talking about steadfast faith, prayer, support, and monetary contributions. Last night around 1:30am I found out about Meechy Monroe's battle with cancer. I read her blog post and watched her video and was so overwhelmed with emotions. She was diagnosed with a rare sarcoma (or vascular cancerous tumor) in her brain. Over the past three months she has endured three consecutive strokes and two brain surgeries. She donated her beautiful hair that we all knew for the famous Meechy Twistout to Locks of Love to help a cancer patient in need. To be so selfless in your own time of need is admirable, I commend you Meechy! 

Before I went to sleep, the only post I saw on Instagram about this was of NaturalPartnersInCrime. I woke up to my social media flooded with condolences to The Monroe Family and scriptures for Meechy during her recovery. "#GetWellMeechy" was everywhere! This moment made it so clear that we truly are a family and we're all affected by Meechy's condition. Regardless if we have met her or not the love and support is there. Below are just a couple of heartwarming comments I saw on her funding page.

The Natural Hair Family for Meechy Monroe

Today I stand as a proud member of the natural hair community FAMILY and it isn't because of the curls on my head, it is because of the overflowing amount of love we all share. As complete strangers connected externally by one feature...our hair, but we all know our hairstyles aren't the only things that tie us together, it's our hearts.

Thank you Meechy for sharing your story with us. I hope you continue to use the voice God has given you. In my eyes your platform has never been limited to just hair, makeup, or fashion, it is about inspiring others to be grateful for the person God has designed them to be. So please continue to be an inspiration to all of us!

Give LoudPen Ink on Kickstarter

So earlier this month, LoudPen, a fellow blogger reached out to me via Twitter to tell me how much she liked my blog. I was ecstatic that she found me, as it was my first time being reached out to by a stranger. After talking I learned about her blog, "De La Pen, All Pen Everything" and Kickstarter campaign to help expand her blog's reach into Pen.Point: The Seasoned Traveler and Pen.Style. After checking out her campaign, I donated to it. (My first Kickstarter donation! Yip-ee!) Read below to find out about the woman behind the project and then if you are able to, definitely go donate to her cause! Give to LoudPen

DDA: What initially inspired you to start your blog? LP: I started my blog because I wanted a place to share my opinion on fashion. Since 2010 when I started, it has grown into an international and multicultural online lifestyle magazine. I cover fashion, music, art, travel, events, and more. I want the site to be a place where people can get information on the latest designers, musicians, artists, travel destinations and hotels, not to mention know what events to attend.

DDA: What do you want people to gain from it? LP:I want to inspire people to create their own great work and lastly, I want to unite people from all different cultures and backgrounds. That's why I always emphasize the international & multicultural part so people understand I cover Asian, Hispanic, African-American, African, European, and American culture on the site. I'm proud to say that the majority of my readership is Asian, Hispanic, and African-American so I'm glad my content is reaching a diverse audience.

Give to LoudPen

DDA: People always want to know where their money is going before the just give it away. For your Kickstarter, how did you determine $2,500 as your goal? Do you have a budget that you can share with us that explains the items you wish you to purchase with this money?  LP: Yes, I definitely have a budget! I would like everyone to know that I worked on the Give LoudPen Ink campaign for 3 months prior to launching it. First, I created a budget which breaks down into: $250 for travel to Dallas which is the 2nd location for the Pen.Point: The Seasoned Traveler campaign. The $250 will cover gas & my rental car. The next part is $650 for Advertising & Marketing. I am planning to launch Google AdWords campaigns and as well as using Facebook and Twitter Advertising. I ran a Facebook ad campaign for my blog a few months ago because I got a free $50 credit and it got me 50 new fans. That's a dollar per fan so I decided to include advertising in the budget. My site gets great traffic and I have a loyal following but major brands work with bloggers who have hundreds of thousands or millions of followers. If I can run a few campaigns, I would see an increase in my numbers and be able to show brands, I know how to blog and use digital/social advertising to increase my campaign reach. That would make me more valuable and make brands more likely to hire me for projects. The next $500 is for photography since that is crucial to having non-grainy photos. The last $400 is to purchase supplies like makeup, beauty products, clothes, and accessories. This is specifically for the Pen.Style shoots because since it's a series of fashion/lifestyle editorials, I want to feature great fashion and fabulous beauty in cool locations. That said, my total budget is $1800, but the reason I'm seeking $2500 is because Kickstarter charges a 5% fee for funds raised and Amazon Payments charges a 2-3% fee. So I wanted to raise enough to cover my costs and those fees.

Give to LoudPen

DDA: So what do you do in order to relax from all the blogging, your day job, and planning out all these social media strategies? LP: Honestly, right now I don't have a favorite place to relax because I rarely let myself do so. I'm not where I want to be with my business and career so I'm usually working. Once my finances start flowing more I fully intend to take vacation or short weekend trips every 2-3 months. I will say that right now, my home is my sanctuary so on the weekends, I'll chill out there and I don't do any work. I usually do a full on digital detox by not using social media either.

DDA: You've been blogging since 2008, that is a long ass time. Like you said it takes money and not to mention all the time and research that goes into it as well. So when was the defining moment that made you decide that you aren't going to die afraid, you were going to just keep inking that page and sharing with your followers what is on your mind? LP: Yes, like we said on Twitter, I'm like the grandma of blogging! It has been such a crazy ass ride navigating the blogosphere. But I'll say it was my first trip to Uzbekistan in 2010 and in 2012 to cover events for the Fund Forum of Arts & Culture Uzbekistan. The Fund Forum is a nonprofit dedicated to promoting Uzbek fashion, music, and art so I was sponsored to attend and cover some of their events. Lots of family members & friends told me not to go but I took a chance and went anyway and that was a pivotal moment for me because it made me a professional blogger officially. I had a major brand cover my travel and accommodations to go all the way to Central Asia. Then when I got back I met my business partner and we co-founded our agency, The Network. With so many unique experiences, I know I won't die afraid because I've taken so many huge risks some have failed, some have been tremendously successful. Either way, "I did it my way" as Jay Z would say.

Have you ever given to a Kickstarter campaign?

What are the most effective ways of fundraising?

Momentum The Inspiring Chrome Extension

Get Your Momentum Up! How can I have an inspirational blog without sharing some of my keys to remain upbeat, you ask? I simply cannot! It just wouldn't be fair for me to keep all this knowledge to myself.

My job consists of me being on a computer all day so instead of opening a new tab and seeing the boring dashboard of Google Apps or "Most Viewed Pages", I have this Google Chrome app called Momentum that you all should check out. (Shout-out to my co-worker Jenna who told me about it.)

Momentum

It is perfect for a person who loves photography, philosophy, and staying organized!

Momentum

From the screenshots you can see the dashboard supplies you with:

  • Beautiful photo, including the location where it was taken
  • "Things to do list" to stay on track of daily tasks
  • Prompts you to create a daily goal through the question, "What is your main focus for today?"
  • Local weather (you can see New York's has been too low for June!)
  • Motivating quote on the bottom
  • Time stamp with a personalized greeting including your name
  • An Apps button on the top left hand corner that redirects you to the Store, Google Docs, Search, Gmail Account, Drive, and YouTube

Momentum

While browsing the Chrome Store, I also saw "Dream Afar New Tab" which is similar to Momentum. According to the reviews, users prefer "Dream Afar New Tab" because it doesn't recycle photos. I have seen the same photos on Momentum before but that didn't bother me because it doesn't take away from the beauty.

Momentum

Momentum

The person who left the review of Dream Afar spelled "does" incorrectly and that bothers me. Regardless, try Momentum or Dream Afar New Tab and tell me how you like them!

What Chrome extensions do you use?

Do you start your day with daily affirmations similar to the quotes in this program?

Don't Die Afraid

die-afraid I love inspirational quotes and I would like to share some with you so you can be inspired too! This is a photo I took a year ago on a road trip to Mississippi. (Don't ask me why I thought an 18 hour drive would be the best way to spend my Spring Break...I'm crazy I know.) Of course the first quote I want to share is one I wrote myself. I wrote this over the summer when I conceived the idea for this blog. To me it means, don't let your fears limit you. Do something that you've been curious about, start a YouTube channel, go zip-lining...do whatever it is that you might regret not doing 60 years from now. For me it was applying to jobs outside of my "dream field." After two months of not working post graduation and thinking that was the end of the world, I realized I am interested in a lot and could apply to a job anywhere! I could have been a food stylist, tour guide, food buyer, food critic, chef...anything that has to do with food clearly. Once I realized that my possibilities were endless, I found a job in technology.

If you aren't familiar with this location, it is the Lorraine Motel, where Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was shot. April 4, 2014 will make it 46 years ago. I chose this background photo for this quote because Dr. King is the perfect example of a person who didn't die afraid.

You can find more of my favorite quotes in my weekly edition of #BeSureSundays

What is one of your  biggest fears? How are you actively working to get over that fear?